For what it's worth, trying to be fair, recognising my own faults that led to distance in our M, understanding why W got angry with me, and making allowances for how she felt all (inadvertantly or not, directly or not) led to her plunging further into an A at that time.
This all scares me - especially when I am thinking of how to deal with H when he arrives to talk about the finances. Why he has chosen now, I don't know. The bills are all up to date and there is currently money in the joint account.
I have drafted my email such:
"Hey (remember, this is how he addressed me) Sorry, not available this week. Could do Saturday after 3pm or Sunday?
If you let me know exactly what it is that you want to discuss, I can have a think about it before you get here".
Reading it like this, it sounds kind of petty and stand-offish. I also think that he will see this as a ploy to break up his weekend when he may or may not be planning to see ow. He has only been here on a weeknight since he moved all his stuff out. I would just love him to come down on a weekend and it would be a small goal if we could go out for coffee together.
How do I make that happen though?? It's like I've never spoken to him before and now I am nervous for every little contact - have I 'detached' too far?? I think that I am just scared of blowing it.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
