Hi Starving It's really sweet that he baked you a cake A book I like is Resurrecting Sex by Dr David Schnarch. I think you are right to confront your C. Maybe he does have a good reason but you need to know. In a way it all depends on why your H has low desire. If there is no particular reason either medical or pschological, he may feel more comfortable talking about it once he realises it is quite a common problem. I say problem because it is a problem in the marriage, not because there is actually something wrong with him. Maybe when you see the counsellor would be a good time to discuss this, you H may be more inclined to listen in this setting. Tell them you have read this book (SSM, maybe take it along) and about what it says about LD being very common and the best way to deal with it is to just start having sex more. Just do it. Perhaps ask your H to read the book himself.
