Alone, Lost, Unloved & Deserve Better

[Silent Chrleader]

He also wants to bring her to our house to sleep and help him load some of the stuff he is taking this coming weekend

WTF???

- how do I handle this?

Tell him "Not only NO, but HE** NO!!!!

I begged him not to because it would literally kill me to see them together

Don't beg because that just gives him the rush of knowing he has the power to hurt you (which is what I think he is definitely trying to do!). Try to keep (or take back) your dignity and just tell him as calmly and directly as you can that that would be totally inappropriate and that if he cares about both of you, then he won't put either of you in that awkward position........ Hold your head up be the gracious lady, and thus show him what an insensitive child he is behaving like!

Then when he comes to get his stuff, have something else to do.....anything at all, even if you just go to a book store or something (but don't tell him what it is!)......Just don't be there......be gone engaging in your new life.

If he asks where you were, just say you had other things to do. If he pushes, look him straight in the eye and smile and tell him it's really not his business anymore what you do with your time.

is he stupid or just cruel?

Probably both!!

Hang in there, honey!!

((((((HUGS))))))