Your method of loving your wife has been doing things for her, and that's probably what your dad did for you mom, right? There's an excellent book about the 5 basic ways human show love for each other. It's called the Five Love Languages, and the author is Gary Chapman.
Each one of us has a primary 'language' in this regard. It's very likely that your wife's is something *other* than Acts of Service. If that's the case, despite everything you've been doing, it's like you've been speaking Swahili to her where love is concerned.
Grab a copy and take a look, and while you're at it, grab Divorce Remedy or Divorce Busting, too.
Cheers,
Dia
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