Help - Husband in MLC

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For what it's worth, trying to be fair, recognising my own faults that led to distance in our M, understanding why W got angry with me, and making allowances for how she felt all (inadvertantly or not, directly or not) led to her plunging further into an A at that time.

These are all good without an OP. With an OP, you're already fighting an uphill battle without having to worry being fair.

Reality and the good things in an M are badly outmatched by the delusion/fantasy a WAS with an OP experiences. At least initially.