I feel for you. I would cry for a week if I were rejected like that. For me, it was 2 years, then we decided to have another child, and now I'm 2 months pregnant, so it looks like another 2 years again. Like yours, my H thinks its no big deal and thinks I'm overeacting. And like yours too, my H also used to visit porn sites. Now this is a killer isn't it? He doesn't want sex with you but at the same time his desire can't be all gone since he does look at porn? I felt really anguished about this for a while. I spoke to H and told him that I was ok with him looking at porn (which man does not like to look anyway?) provided it does not replace me. I also told him that we could look at them together if he liked, just don't hide from me or do it secretly and I told him that if he wanted to keep porn on the pc he should try to just keep the couple ones and not the girly ones. (thats the insecure me speaking - afterall who likes to be compared to all that made up fantasy 'glorious' bodies?) Have you spoken to your H about how his viewing the girly sites makes you feel? LH
