I hear what you are saying Mindfull and I know that there are a lot of issues that have to be dealt with and I am now venturing into unknown territory and will have to tread carefully.
I just don't know that this point in time is the right time to do this, I think he needs to have moved even closer to me than he is at the moment.
The reason I say that is because whilst he is showing renewed interest, he still has not started to address me again with my name or pet name this is one step that is very important to me but has not happened yet. The other important steps for me would be to return to leaving his car key and phone on the hall table as he used. All three of these things are high on my list and particularly the key and phone reflect not having anything to hide from me.
One thing he did mention during coffee was that he needed to take some money from our account to cover costs he incurred on his business credit card whilst away on his business trip recently to the States. He said he needed to refund $500AUD for gifts he bought for people at work and the gifts he bought for me and he also had to cover for non essential meals and drinks.
Now I could jump to the conclusion that if there is an OW and signs are pointing that way, that he bought items for OW and using his work account is a good way of hiding the purchases. BUT I have to give him the benefit of the doubt here as he initially lost his wallet on arrival in the States and our cards were cancelled, so he had a 3 day gap before new cards could be issued and there were purchases made using our account once the new cards issued.
I do feel that I have to be fair in my judgement of H on this issue.
