Sorry... me again. You are in marriage counseling. For six months. Sorry.
I do understand why your counselor is going down the road of improving communication... but jesus girl. Four years. I'd move out, take your girls with you, and tell him you'll move back AFTER you've seen improvement. I think you have serious control issues going on in your marriage, and I'm not so sure it isn't abusive.
I'd continue in therapy on your own.
Sorry for all the posts. I'm just so outraged on your behalf I'm getting scattered.
