Dear Barbara, Thank you for responding. My H is 36 and as far as I know has no medical condition that could cause his LD. He hasn't been to a doctor but probably would agree that the problem is not physical. He just is not interested in any form of physical contact including kissing, hugging, or touching. When I try to touch him in any way he withdraws. We are both educated, successful in our careers, and very attractive. We have a lovely home and are good parents to our daughters. Our counsellor is male and very kind and approachable but he seems to avoid the sexual conversations and prefers to focus on improving our communication, etc. I think he feels if we spent more time together, talked more, and became friends again, the sex would return naturally. I'm not so sure. I've been reading the Sex-Starved Marriage and find it helpful in some ways. I try to follow the advice about not nagging and being more pleasant to be around. We are arguing a little less and are kinder to each other. I wonder how long it takes to move from this stage to being physical again. It's great to know I'm not the only one out there struggling with this! The hardest part is of course still desiring him but not being desired in return. Starving
