Quote: Hi All! This is my first post so I'm a little nervous.. I am a 39 year old woman who's been married for 71/2 years. We have 2 daughters aged 3 & 6. My husband has always been less interested in sex than me but since I stopped initiating sex 4 years ago, we have not been intimate. I'm nearing the end of my rope. We've been in counselling for 6 mos. but it doesn't seem to be helping much. I don't want a divorce but I don't want a marriage like this either. Is there any hope after this long? Have others gone this long?
Hi Starving: Sorry to hear about your situation, but you've definitely come to the right place. There's a lot of good information to be had here. I will say that I went for years w/o sex from my 1st husband. Side effects from meds caused impotence. Ultimately that was not what led me to D, but rather his abusive nature. I can't imagine loving someone dearly and not being intimate with him for 4 years.
How old is your H? Has he been checked out with a doctor to eliminate any medical problems?
You said you've been in counselling for about 6 months, but it's not working. Would you tell us more about the C and the sessions? What typically goes on during the session? Is it what you expected? Do you feel comfortable with the C? Does your H feel comfortable with the C? My H & I just started with a C and it's a man we both feel at ease with. He asks questions in a way as to expose the issue and then he offers us ways of dealing with it. We go back for our 2nd visit this Wednesday. It sounds to me like this is not the case with you and your H.
