Sounds great, Oz. Actually, sounds a lot like my H when he started showing interest again. Yes, expect a pullback, and yes, show no response to it.
I actually think you did nothing damaging or wrong with letting your H snuggle with you. If you'd cried, started R talk, or got all clingy, then yeah. You didn't initiate or ask for it...and this is your H having to woo you back.
Always in DBing, more of what works, less of what doesn't. Happy, GAL, independent OZ is drawing him back. You aren't making it easy for him...and there will come a time when he's back enough that you can set some agreements about what you need in a M. I highly recommend MC too...find a solutions-based MC.
Sounds like you had so much fun the other night...see what happens when you push your boundaries and do scary stuff? One of the gifts of H bombing me was figuring this out, and so now I'm more afraid of being afraid to do something than I am of actually doing it. My world has expanded considerably!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
