It doesn't appear that your W is into sports the way you are. This may be an area that you will have to choke down b/c I doubt she is going to be very faithful to see that the boys are at their games. To women who don't care for sports....it is a chore. For "mothers" who want to make their kids who love ball happy.....they take the kids and learn to like watching them play.
There are going to be several areas that is going to be hard to deal with....and most will be to do with the boys.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
