Just want my H back

[pearlharbr]

You're definitely making progress!

it's weird how no contact for weeks and then when he wants to talk he's very persistent about it. why does he think i will just drop everything when he wants to talk, yet not answer me for weeks in the past when i wanted to communicate? and then if i set boundaries or say i'm busy, he gets kinda nasty.

Exactly. Remember this behavior. You're right, you don't have to be on his timeline.

I would give an even shorter reply than Stronger's version: Sorry I missed your call, I've been really busy. What did you want to discuss?

So it's time to act as if...I would recommend you act as if you are in charge and you know you are going to be fine no matter what happens.

What she said.