I think you need to back off RSF. You apologized and that's all you can do now.
Back off and let her figure out this relationship with OM. I think if you leave it alone, it will play itself out.
Backing way off Stronger.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09