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[RedSoxFan]

I taught in your first post you said your wife has had a couple of previous affairs?

Is this a "revenge" or "control" thing you pull on each other?

Why did she return after the previous affairs?
Why do you think she should feel she should return after yours

Previous physical affair was a result of my not being present physically and emotionally. I was running a start-up business and was basically absent husband and father. She came clean and I forgave her as I should have. Later was EA and for similar reasons.

I'm OK if she just agrees to consider reconciling and agrees to start a dialogue with a counselor. I have made so many profound discoveries and changes that I just want the opportunity to begin showing her that I can be the husband she wants and needs. First I need to give her enough reason to believe and so far the process to do that seems like a very big challenge. Watching her with OM while doing so feels nearly impossible in my heart even though my brain wants to do it.