As far as how you show her you want to talk to her, I think what she is probably saying is that she doesn't feel like you are LISTENING to her. She probably does not feel she has your undivided attention when she talks to you.
It is NOT pursuit. It is putting down everything else when she talks to you and listening. Not trying to fix her problem - she does not want that, she just wants to tell you. So, look her in the eyes, ask an occasional open ended question to keep her talking and to show your interest.
