Among them was the "no discussion/no mention rule" re: Signore Schmuckatelli.
Denied. THAT was a dealbreaker for me -- everything's on the table or we might just as well save the $150/week. She tried to threaten her way out of it -- "I guarantee you that's going p*ss me off."Okay, be p*ssed off. Or don't go. I really don't care either way. But it's the whole kit-and-kaboodle or nothing. That's the deal. Take it or leave it. (cf, @robx)
Result: Total capitulation. "Take it."
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"Why are you always so nice to me?"That's the way I roll.
"Are you really this balanced? At peace like this?"Yep -- that I am.
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In fact, I'm mojoriffic, baby.
I'm glad you pushed her, regardless if you saw it or not, it's just another test to see how far she can push those boundaries with you, how much you're willing to give up just to have her there, how much you'll give in and you didn't give in and she gave in - what does that tell you?
Expect more tests, expect her to continue attempting to push past boundaries and just stand there and smile.
It can be tiresome to continue to be tested this way and from what I've reading, some wives can push their husbands alot, continuing to see how far they can get away with their crap behavior. Really, it's all a sign of their insecurity and testing to see if they can feel secure with you, you pass the tests they feel safe/safer with you, the tests don't stop so you just have to be there, ready for them.
Man it is tiresome, I still go through it regularly and now that I know more about this, I just smile at her as if to say I'm reading your mind right now, I know what you're doing and I'm ready.
As far as the comment about her being so nice to you, I would tell her "...it's not so much me being nice to you, it's me not wasting my energy & rewarding your crap behavior with my attention. If you want me here for these marriage counselling sessions, you better smarten up, once this boat sets sail, it may be for good ;-)"
