Thanks for the post. I have pretty much decided that it is necessary for me to move on to keep my emotional stability. I keep reminding myself that she is no longer the woman who loved me the way she did for 11.5 years. Bottom line is she has made her choice and I am going to give it to her and as you say, rebuild the guy I was...if not better. She has commented numerous times on my appearance, attitude and confidence over the last month or so. As for the Coaching/EA/PA I am just going to assume it is true because there is no good explanation for her changes. She is definitely going through a MLC and she can have at it so long as it does not have an adverse effect on our children.
Two things I have learned from this so far; I will never say ALWAYS and I will never say NEVER. Nothing is a given in life and nothing is impossible. Unfortunately, with each day that will pass any chance for reconciliation will fade a little bit for me. I have a game plan and I am sticking to it. No doing anything together, no sex and no conversation besides VERY casual and anything to do with the kids. I just need to ensure that I project that I am not angry or bitter and that things are just as good if not better without her. It just seems such a shame to throw away so much love and comittment.
I will post every few days as I am sure I will need more help as the ride continues.
