I think you are playing your cards wrong here though with W. She told you that she is working on ending the relationship with OM. Stay out of the way and let her.
I don't think I'm playing any cards. I think I'm screwing up. But the difference is I'm not feeling hysterical or out of control, I've just gone to a negative dark place about all of this.
She did tell me that she was planning the end with him in her head but I assume that had something to do with my putting pressure on her and asking her to pull the kids out. That's the context in which it came up. I see no sign now that she has any plans to end anything. She reiterated this a.m. that the kids will occasionally be exposed to him. I can't and shouldn't mind read. I really don't know what she's thinking.
This may seem weird but I almost feel like I'm sabotaging myself. When I called to apologize to her today I just kept feeling the urge to say lets just get a divorce and end this...but I didn't.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09