W, I definitely agree that there is either coaching going on or an EA/PA. I just smell that the stink associated with some one having a negative influence on your relationship (there usual is one even if we don't want to think there is). Are there any new single/divorced friends in her life? Or new co-workers? I have seen time after time on here that an LBS says there is no way for that to be happening and then the truth unfolds.
Keep on working on yourself. Rebuild the guy that was...and try to forget what you had become...makes sense? As far as your continued intimacy with your wife...I don't know about that one. The act does lead to increased emotional attachment, but I think Michelle does say it can be too much. She has to realize that she is giving you up and with that, you can't always be there for her. Also, how is she going to miss you if you are there are the time?
Focuses; 1) Continue to work on your happiness 2)Find out if there is an outside influence on the relationship 3)Decrease availability some 4)Be ready for the push/pull roller coaster
