I was supposed to get divorced tomorrow - part 2

[1853dave]

Had a few interactions with W this weekend - all were good, non-confrontational. Even had a couple of friendly conversations on the phone - more than just logistical info, but more personal stuff. Certainly no R talk.

She did have me pick up kids at a friend's house - another avoidance tactic, to keep me from the home. I didn't make any deal out of it, didn't say a word. When I arrived, W was there talking to her mom-friend. I asked mom-friend if I could take her 2 girls with my girls out for ice cream. She agreed. We had a great time - at least this mom still talkes to me, somewhat.

Anyway, Sunday night I brought the kids back to the home, and we conv for a bit - a short visit, but it was nice. From what I could read, she was ok with it too. Friendly, as though nothing was wrong. We even hugged when I left, although it wasn't real warm, I have had colder hugs in the past.

Labor Day - family friends came to town, but apparently I was not allowed to hang out with them. W planned the day with them and the kids, and the plans didn't include me. I felt punched in the gut by being excluded (again). I can only wonder what the family thinks of me now... Did she poison them with her version of "10 years of a bad marriage"? Did she say nothing at all? I wonder if anyone even asked about me.

Well, nothing I could do about it anyway. I have hurt feelings, though. I hate how the friends "we" had are now only "her" friends, and there's some unwritten law somewhere that prevents them from speaking to me.

Maybe that's how you find out who your friends really are...