I cant think of reconciling with him because I believe he is lacking all those qualities that make people fighters. It actually is the reason he turned to this woman. Isntead of fighting to "fix" what was broken (because there was something wrong with us), he just... replaced it.
Ditto for me. I was willing to forgive and put the affair behind (with a lot of work), but during the divorce process, she never showed me that she was strong enough to fight for our marriage. And when she asked for a second chance, right before the D was final, she did not have the guts (or loss of some pride) to express her feelings to me.
