RSF, You have got to calm down. You have already admitted what you said to W was crappy. You cannot attack her as a mother because you really want to lay into her as your wife. The two really are not transferrable. I know you know plenty of great parents who are horrible spouses, right? I know I do. You’re daughter is at an age where she’s going to have to be exposed to nice kids, bad kids and everything in between. All you can do is guide her and let her know if you have concerns about one particular friend. You daughter will be fine and she will make the right choices. I completely agree with you though, at 14, your daughter doesn’t need to hang out with others who are 4 to 6 years older. I know the differences between 14 year old Stronger and 18 year old Stronger were huge huge differences. (Why would girls that age want to hang out with a 14 year old anyways?) I grew a lot in those four years, as I’m sure you did too. So I’m with you there. I think you are playing your cards wrong here though with W. She told you that she is working on ending the relationship with OM. Stay out of the way and let her.
