She says "God your dad is F...ked up! He's such a .....", which leaves me saying / thinking "Back off!! that's my family you are talking about!!"
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I understand and think it is a good approach. I struggle with agreeing with her.
Oh, I thought you wanted to solve the problem and have a better relationship with your wife. I guess agreeing with her so that she feels heard and understood would be going against your princieples huh?
I find it interesting to observe that you DO KNOW that your dad can be a jerk and is critical, but find it amazing that you just "struggle" with agreeing with her...
Ok. The way I have suggested WILL solve the problem between your wife and you. I wouldn't want you to be uncomfortable having a problem solved.
A wise man makes it short and sweet...
Yes Honey, my dad is f....ked up. (get off the high horse of whether she is right or not.. WHO CARES? the issue is for you to learn how to respond to a woman that you love, not whether you HAVE to be right.)(screw being right, if your wife loves you more for being wrong on these types of issues)
You don't even need to go to your dad and say anything (your wife WILL be furious if you do that without first warning her)
When you OFFER to do it she will NOT want you to do it...
Agree.. offer to say something..
She will then tell you no, don't say anything to him
AND she will feel closer to you for understanding..
And I believe you DO understand how your dad is. Shame on you for allowing your wife to feel alone and that it is "her" against your family... Shame..
and here I thought you WANTED to make your relationship better.
