"Funny thing is that most women (I think) are upset with men looking at pron becasue the THINK they can not compeate with that skinny little thing...."
Not really relevant, but I don't think this is really what bothers most women about porn. I can watch and enjoy porn, but it is challenging because:
1) The women in the vast majority of porn demonstrate such inauthentic sexuality, it is frustrating. I don't mean that they are faking -- OF COURSE, they are faking, they are actors. I mean that the sexuality they represent does not correspond to real world sexuality. The techniques used to arouse them, what it appears to take to make the O, the sounds they use to express pleasure are very unrealistic. They create expectations of what hot sex "should" be like that don't correspond to what hot sex actually will be like. Imagine, for instance that male porn stars were consistently shown O'ing after rapturously painting a woman's nails, writhing in sexual bliss while giving her oral, and then having the base of the penis squeezed once. Sure, some men might find that enjoyable. But would it lead to O? Would it be a complete sexual experience. Would it bother you if your W thought this was the ideal of hot sex, and if you were a real man that would really do it for you?
2) There is of course the great discomfort of watching very young women who you know will not feel good about there job later being exploited.
3) Porn is often somewhat boring for women because the activities portrayed don't match our fantasies (see (1)), and because there is no story. BUT, to clear up this "story" aspect, this does NOT mean, as many often interpret, that "women want a nice love story and scenes of romantic dinners and diamond rings" in their porn. Rather, it is that they want the context of the R represented, including the power relations, basically they want to see the psychology between the sexual partners, their sexual motivations. If you add this in with a setting, a few lines of dialog, and appropriate body language, porn becomes much more stimulating.
4) There is incredibly strong social pressure on women to not like porn. Your W probably even feels this from you as you have a very rigid idea of what her sexuality is like, even when you have proof that she acted in ways inconsistent with your portrayal. Part of that rigid idea is that she is a very straight-laced good woman who doesn't like porn.
