I genuinely thought I was doing something nice that didn't appear to be pursuing. ..... I think she wasn't interested simply because I asked. She seems to be looking for things to be angry about.
You are assuming facts not in evidence and assigning motives. Not helpful.
You tried to do "something nice". It was; nothing wrong with that. But then you got upset when she didn't respond the way YOU thought she should to your kind gesture. A kind gesture is its own reward. The recipient shouldn't feel compelled to respond in a certain way, ESPECIALLY if this requires mind reading: "He's offering me food -- I really don't feel hungry, and even if I was I'm not in the mood for anything grilled. But I can't say that; it will hurt his feelings, because he's trying to be so nice." How would you like it if you had to run every offer from her through those kind of mental convolutions or risk hurting her feelings?
I can't recall .... have you read "No More Mr. Nice Guy"?
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
