WAW and 4 kids

[tryingtilDorR]

I agree that having W staying in the house is better than if they leave, although my IC hasn't always agreed. She said that without a separation sometimes the conflicts and stress of being around each other causes the situation to deteriorate more. I agree that this has happened in my situation, but if you really practice DB it shouldn't be the case as much I think looking back over the events of the past 9 months.

My W has some unrealistic expectations about what D would be like financially for her just like yours I think. She talked to a L a week ago. I lost my job last November and got a lower-paying one that is less stressful and much more flexible, which is great, but she thinks I can just go out an get another job that pays what I was making before, but it isn't that easy in this economy. I have told her eventually I would look for something that paid more, but if we D I would probably just hold on to this job given the flexibility.