Thank you for the good wishes. It is done. It ended up costing me an extra £10k but if we hadn't reached this agreement today I would probably have found myself in court several times over the next 6 months so at least this way it is now all over. He can apply for absolute as of 30th September. After that I can move on properly.
With all his debts he won't have much left out of £40k to put towards a house for him and whoever else he thinks will share it with him.
He used a barrister today whereas I just used a solicitor. His barrister told my L that STBXH was a very arrogant man! Turns out barrister is one cool cookie though b/c the court order says the money has to go to Ls first cos that way they get to take thier fees out of it first.
I haven't won but in the grand scheme of things I haven't lost either.
Right now I'm feeling very teary, confused and scared of my finaical future BUt I know it can only go up from here.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
