Thanks for all that input.

I was reading in the tub this morning and came across this. It describes my ex perfectly.

SYNDROME OF THE MAN WHO HAS ARRIVED AND DISCOVERED HE IS NOWHERE

He has achieved his goals and finds they are not what he had anticipated. He suffers the disillusionment of promises that petered out-the payoff with the kickback! He has all the things money can buy and finds decreasing satisfaction in all he has. He is satiated and unsatisfied. He has a pot full of nothing. He is in the land of ulcers and cardiacs, alcoholism, divorce and suicide! He suffers from the neurosis of emptiness. He is the man who has become a whale of a success downtown and a pathetic failure at home. He is a big shot with the boys in the office and a big phony with the boy at home. He is a status symbol in society and a fake with his family. Destination sickness - the illness peculiar to a culture that is affluent - and godless.


Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11