No matter how long I am here, I still can't believe the similarity of the patterns.
The ring thing. Oh man. It DOES matter. BUT...obsessing over it is a waste of energy. Ignoring it is like being told "don't go down cheeseless tunnels." Process it. Realize that your W is saying something. Move forward with yourself.
I'll say one thing in line with Coach. My head is spinning with the descriptions and analysis. My DB coach once said to me, "Just be."
Orich...just be....YOURSELF. The most difficult thing to do here is to just let this go and function as a man...as a father...as a husband. Direct this as such without pressure or pursuit. The old Irish saying...accept those things you can change and those you can't.
Originally Posted By: Orich
Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again
Even if that last line is the case, you will survive and be OK. Sure...saving this is the goal and ALL of us pray for you here. It's the growth and journey forward that matters. And if you can let go of all the self-blame and victimization, realize that the tools you used in the past were no good (brand X) and now you're buying NEW tools (Craftsmen)....and look at this as a lesson in life and NOT a failure, well, then...you may just be surprised who might be standing next to you in the roller coaster ride called life when the dust clears.
Stay tuf'. FIB (fellow NY'er still under the same roof with his.......wife)
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
