I havent posted before to you, fellow piecer, but wow your post really touched me. That letter is how I feel.. although I have accepted things to some extent on face value and am pushing less and less for the "details".. but I find myself wondering about the holes in exactly the same way. I looked on a GIS map today wondering which of the houses in the aerial shot was ow's. Funn how such inconsequential things weigh on our mind.
My bf is EXACTLY the same as the man in the letter.. dreadfully regrets it, wants to forget it entirely, wipe his memory, never speak of it again, to him its now nothing and what do the details matter? So he too answers with, it doesnt matter now.. I am here with you now.. its all in the past.. as though that should be sufficient an answer. But it just isnt is it!
I think time is the answer, I had an EA once and we already pieced for a year after that and eventually his questions died down and we were fine (until his Dad died and he had his depression and subsequent breakdown!!).. and I imagine in time the need to 'know' will fade for me also.
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
