Hey guys.. FIB "Sitting around and waiting....enabling poor behavior...failing to draw boundaries...and avoiding conflict....will NEVER appear attractive and draw your spouse back into the relationship."
That wasnt true in my case. I DID sit around and wait, I always always saw him, even when he gave me only 10 mins notice. I met him for drinks when he was with ow and said not a word about her, I drew no boundaries at all and yet he still came back. He came back for love, once he had gotton past his 'breakdown'. I believe a small number of WAS will come back naturally, no matter what we do, as long as we are still loving and consistently THERE. BUT you may as well go off and do anything in the meantime, live your life and be happy (apart from get an OP yourself), as staying indoors being depressed didnt change the outcome! I could have spared myself the misery. I wanted to post this to Newcomers too, but I just couldnt!
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
