NO.. Your best option is to use the one that WORKS...
Let me show you how to do it..
Your wife says... "I don't think your dad likes me, he criticizes everything I say"........
YOUR BEST ANSWER.... "Yes, he does say some pretty critical things to you and I know exactly what you mean. Do you think I should say something to him, because I am about to...
THAT is what works....
Agree with HER postion. (yes dear, he is critical, do you think I should say something to him for you)
Your wife will then say something like this....
"No don't say anything to him because he seems to be like that to everybody"...
See, she will then say the very thing YOU wanted to tell her, which was that he does that to everybody. She already knows this. The only way to get her to change course is to agree that he is critical, ask her if she wants you to say something to him about it and then wait for her response. I would bet that she will say no. She is just telling your her feelings. This is how women do it. LEARN TO AGREE WITH HER....
Get it?
You then win.. She then changes her position because you AGREED with her original one. She is just complaining.. Let her be who she is and jump on her side of issues...
