This is an important hill for you to take, Thinker. Take the time to fully understand how and why she feels the way she does and then help her by getting in the way of any further slights from your parents. And that includes slights that YOU do not perceive as slights. Have her back. Show her that SHE is YOUR FAMILY.
We dealt with this BIG TIME. Turns out it mattered a lot more than either one of us ever dreamed it would.
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