Thanks June and Red. No I don't want the H that he is now or the father he is now. He was the total opposite before all the this hit. That is the man I want back in our family.

I keep praying and praying that God touches him and he seeks help for himself and then I would take him back. Our D's counselor and my S's counselor keeps telling them that he is ill right now and all they can do is wait for him to get better. And that's what I hoping and praying for, for the children's sake more than mine.

I just can't help but think about our vows, through sickness and health and he is sick right now so that's why I hope and pray that he gets better and then returns. Should I leave this site then? Didn't know that it wasn't for someone that was ill when separated. So I think I messed up by coming on here I guess. And wait to see if he gets better and then come back?

Advice please.


M 41
H 35
D 12
S 18
Separated 11/08