To be clear, the purpose of doing this would be for me. We've talked about confidence and self-esteem. This would be taking a stand. W told me this is unneccessary - but I've been playing this her way for all this time.
On the other hand, it's also stirring the pot. It's driving emotions higher. It's calling more attention to it.
Yeah, this guy knows my W is married - he came to our 10-year anniversery party. I shook his hand and talked to him. This is the first W had seen him too since high school, although they had been talking on FB. Shortly after she went down to the bay area to see her friends, and when she came back (you guys remember how she was all angry when she returned), she asked for D the next day.
So, about the conversation -
Yeah, the whole way this things transpired was, we had the initial conversation, I went off into the other room. She called into me, do you want to talk about this? So I went in and that's when she went through all these scenarios.
She started talking about me moving out, I just said "This is not about me moving out." She asked how the kids are going to get to school, I said, they can take the bus. She said, But the bus comes at 7:20 or something like that, I said no, it comes at 8:17, I checked the schedule. She looked at me and said, you've been a busy beaver, haven't you?
Then at some point she said, "I'm not willing to do anything right now," so I said, make up your mind quickly and walked off - she said, you can move out any time you want. At some point I came back and gave her the rental application.
I went back into my room, then she came in and agreed.
Yeah, she did say, there's no way you can enforce this - then she said, I'm going to have to give you my word. This, my continined friendship and respect for her, seems to mean a lot to her. But it leaves a lot of space open.
She also said that, she went for divorce so quickly when she realized she was attracted to this man, because that signaled to her something wrong or some such - somebody paying attention to her while I was working, being distant etc.
After all this, she wanted to talk about the book she's been reading, etc. Chatting.
