Good reminders about the compartmentalizing! No wonder he sometimes seems so exhausted or such a mess when he gets home from work. And Cat, you are right about this being something men can normally do when they are not in crisis! I know my H is/has to be way more outgoing and extroverted at work than he is by nature and I can't see how he could keep his job if he wasn't able to wear a mask/be different at work now. It seems if they couldn't wear that mask at work and with others they really couldn't function in the real world during the crisis.
It is so hard for me right now to sort out what is "normal" behavior for H and what is not. It has been at least a year since I first noticed him slowly detaching from us/the real world (in hindsight) so it is hard to remember what normal life used to be like!
