ISLMW, DBing first and foremost is about doing what works. That being said talking about the relationship generally does not as it becomes a who's right conversation. You witnessed this first hand during your initial MC session. If that conversation is solution focused that is a diferent story. That doesn't let you off the hook for working on yourselve though:-).
Now for a word of caution. Based on some your previous posts your W may have already hit the eject button and could be just going through the motions. Typical of many WAS they are just biding time until they can escape. That's another reason R talk is unsucessfull; WAS see everything in a very negative light. They gobble up ever morsel of negative garbage and use it to build a wall of resentment and justification for the action they are taking. What you see as hope is often seen as too little too late.
Working on yourself does is shows action. Also taking the lead is a good thing for a man. Now it is up to you to sustain it.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
