Based on my past experience, I see many warning signs that your WAW could potentially go that direction. It is not at all funny, and you will find yourself very put off by her behavior, that is if she does go off her rocker.
I'm actually not too worried about this one. Two reasons: 1. She's in the military and I have emails and an IM chat where she admitted to having screwed other men. Adultry in the military is against the rules and she could lose big time as my commander knows and all I have to do is say go and he will make the phone call and she will be in for a hell of a ride. 2. When I consulted with my lawyer the other day, she told me that there was a 99% chance that I would retain custody of my daughter if my case actually had to go to court--I'm hoping it won't. The lawyer also said that if there was a visitation agreement drawn up then at the age of 15, my daughter doesn't have to agree to going to see her mom. In other words, my daughter has about zero respect for her mom right now based on what her mom has said and done(remember, she told her that she had a BF). So, if the wife gets more "crazy" my daughter will recognize this and opt out of visitations probably I'm guessing.
What you describe are contingency plans, not prevention of further bad behavior on her part, not a big point, but figured I would make it just the same.
Originally Posted By: AFWAW
Life is way too short to put up with someone like that!
Playing the “get out of jail card” you have been dealt is your call. Nothing to feel guilty about, you need to do what is best for you and daughter. When I say guilty, I mean your own internal conflict. Guilt is something your conscience puts on you when you harm another, it is misplaced, or misinterpreted in your sitch. No one else is coming down on you for this, other then the wife, and she has put herself into a situation where she has no leg to stand on.
Originally Posted By: AFWAW
I did not expect this crazyness in my life.
I had expected the sitch to be more worser then it, especially considering this was a three day weekend, with a holiday. Figured she would at least show up at your place.
Originally Posted By: AFWAW
"I can only assume the worst when you block your facebook friends and avoid my calls that you are finished and don't want to work on this marriage anymore. If you want that woman, have at her. I'm done trying at this point. I've called and begged and tried and prayed and it's not working. Good luck to you."
I hope she really means this because I was actually frightened of that monster yesterday. ………Please tell me she is going to leave me alone now.
No, she is not going to leave you alone now. Would imagine it will die down this week, and pickup again, if not this weekend then another. Would think she would demand a face to face, something along the lines of “I have to hear this from you in person”.
Originally Posted By: AFWAW
… and oh, I learned this morning that she has called my friend numerous times(she even called this woman's work) where it is to a point where it could be considered harrassment. I hope my wife realizes this before it is too late and starts to control her behavior.
Was thinking I may have read some triggers here, and was simply projecting into your sitch. Am now doubting my second thoughts.
