Need Advice

[Deep]

Well to hijack Coach's analogy, your W probably knows deep inside that the lifeboat probably has a few major leaks too. If she loses the ship, she'll find out in a hurry.

I, like a lot of folks here, feel your pain ... your anger, and despair. Ask yourself honestly how much you want your M still, translate that into boundaries you can live with, and then communicate and enforce them.

But don't forget to be forgiving as well if the situation turns. I think forgiving is not a sign of weakness or backsliding necessarily.