I've Come Full Circle #27

[kat727]

The best part was that D9 didn't want to take it off two hours later!! lol I am not really great at the nail thing but it was just a great way to connect.

They reminded me that ex wants them this weekend, which would mean he would get them three in a row. I am not sure he can arrange it that way. Maybe I can bargain to keep Halloween which is my favorite holiday.

kat

[Sugar and Spice]

They reminded me that ex wants them this weekend, which would mean he would get them three in a row. I am not sure he can arrange it that way. Maybe I can bargain to keep Halloween which is my favorite holiday.
kat

Because you are a Good Witch! Lol. The girly night sounds fun and as my grandma used to say, "No ticky, no washy." Which usually meant if you want something from me, then you have to give me something in return. It shouldn't be a bargain, just more of a switch.

Priya sounds very intrguing...I'd like to try her too.

[kat727]

She has a website. Her last name is Kale. I really like the way she writes as well. Sort of spiritual/mystical. I think about what she told me, what my months outlook is and see it so much clearer. I am worthy of this incredible love that I know is out there waiting for me. Maybe I have been holding myself back, perhaps I am the one that needed to heal. Either way, I will welcome it and know that it is mine and I do deserve to feel this way.

Sorry if I got a tad carried away there. Just trying to accept it all and take it all in.

kat

[kat727]

Somedays...! After ex plans on having 3 weekends with the kids, without asking me, he starts to make plans to take the boys to a football game on my first weekend!! Granted the boys refuse to go spend the weekend at skanks, um GF's house. S16 hasn't actually even gone to ex's former house since he tricked him into going to his house and then forced him to stay.

He got the boys involved and then was going to ask me if it was ok. He does this sort of stuff and then makes me out to be the bad guy when I already have plans. I am sure this is the kind of crud I will have to keep dealing with but it really is soooo old already. Wish he would at least act like an adult.

kat

[whatdidido]

Your ex is manipulating isn't he? I'd make sure to have a talk (if you haven't already) to him about what exactly your schedule is and stick to it. Talk to the kids, too. So, EVERYONE is on the same page and he can't do what he is doing. Then, years down the road, when he is more sane, you can be more flexible.

I miss you.

[karen43]

Good one, wdid. Yeah, Kat, he knows he can do what he wants b/c you're so nice!!! Our X's are still acting like total ****'s!

[dday101798]

See this is why I give XW zero leniancy on 'major' schedule shifting. We're no longer on speaking terms again because I simply refused to 'swap' weekends with her this past weekend. It's just something I'm not going to get in the practice of and cause this type of insanity.

So, Kat's got to put her foot down before it only gets more out of hand.

[kat727]

This three weekend thing I had misread and thought it appled to both parents but I guess just the non-custodial one couldn't go three weekends without seeing the kids. I explained to him that it is difficult to do fun stuff during the week and then of course he throws out the "I only get to see them 8 days" card. Yes, that is true though the boys have asked you to help out with stuff during the week, you are just too busy.

I did actually say that "You created this situation and tend to cry foul an awful lot. You will have had them 3 weekends and then it is mine and you make plans behind my back without seeing what I have planned." The boys have their birthday on either side of the weekend and he is saying that this is all about that. Fact remains he should have discussed this with me. I am wobbling as I want the time with my kids but also know he could pick another time to do this and could celebrate their birthdays on the date.

kat

[mishka422]

He got the boys involved and then was going to ask me if it was ok. He does this sort of stuff and then makes me out to be the bad guy when I already have plans.

Mine does the exact same thing. He likes to preface it to marc with, "unless your mom already has plans for you." but , like that matters! He already dangled the worm and now I'm the bait snatcher if I say no!

Hold your ground kat!!!

[Sugar and Spice]

I did actually say that "You created this situation and tend to cry foul an awful lot. You will have had them 3 weekends and then it is mine and you make plans behind my back without seeing what I have planned." The boys have their birthday on either side of the weekend and he is saying that this is all about that. Fact remains he should have discussed this with me. I am wobbling as I want the time with my kids but also know he could pick another time to do this and could celebrate their birthdays on the date.
kat

I'm all for choosing your battles, but its time to take a stand. This is what he agreed to and now he needs to stick to it for a while. If it ever comes to pass that he makes it out of Jr. High, then you can revisit the "being flexible" thing, but for now I wouldn't. He doesn't give you the same courtesy you give him, so he needs to be brought up short. What would you do if it were one of the kids? You'd make them follow the rules right? Hes just a larger, hairier version of a middle schooler...sometimes 13yr old boys gotta pay the piper.