Wow is right. Sorry to say, but to me that's part of the WAW delusion and script.

I'm not saying there's nothing to be fixed in your M, or for that matter any M.

I went through the same thing before, and I refused to take that line of discussion. If W was having problems with you and the M, how is giving herself to another man part of the solution? And as long as those delusional glasses stay on, your problems will seem bigger than they actually are, if some of them even existed at all.

There's good advice here on not competing with OP, that you're better than that. Like it or not, as long as there's OP, there's always comparison, if not competition, at least in the mind of the WAS.


Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.