Distraught by secrecy

[dday101798]

. So how will he realize he has a problem if no one tells him he does???

Only he can wake up one morning and ask himself, 'my gosh, what have I done?'.

Until then, the more you call, beg, plea, and try to "make" him see, the worse you're going to make it. Honor his nasty message and go about your life. With little to no contact and you becoming a more stable and recovered individual, he'll come back around on his own.