She didn't close her account, she just blocked all of you. Trust me, she's still there.
You have to stop psyching yourself out.
Do you want to know HOW many of the old timers here know how important detaching is? This is just my theory, but I would bet my next paycheck on it....
There have been plenty of people here who used to freak out like you (and me in the beginning too), based their moods on their WAS's moods, reacted to WASs and were just generally depressed about what the WAS was doing and the whole situation.
Then one day, the LBS gets "over it". They get tired of feeling scared and stressed and they get more tired of the egg shells. They just get over all of of the WAS's bs. The LBS finally decides, "Ok, maybe divorce would be better. It's got to be better than living like this, in this hell." So the LBS seemingly detaches. Finally. They get over it and seemingly detach.
I say seemingly because in actuality, they aren't detaching as much as the they are officially planning to move on, to truly let go. But forever.
Then, something amazing happens. The WAS spouse starts to care and shows it. The WAS makes effort and starts to DB.
Then the LBS has a decision to make....keep moving on or return to the marriage.
And it's a hard decision because the LBS was able to start making strides toward a direction without the WAS. They get to see life without WAS and WAS gets to see life with LBS. And sometimes unfortunately for the WAS, the LBS sees this life and likes it, even prefers it....and the marriage ends. But sometimes, the LBS is happy to come back they work it out.
So you have to detach. You have to live a normal life, or as clost to it as possible. You are really going to lose your mind if you constantly worry about him and his moods and what he may be doing.
