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Need some advice here....

I had a conversation with W this morning which I didn't intend to have and it may not have gone well I had some problems with oldest D over the weekend and she asked about details. I had intended to gather my thoughts before talking to W about the situation. Basically the problems involved a friend of Ds who comes from a bad family situation, some of the parents at camp let me know that they had overheard friend putting some bad thoughts in daughters head about my being too controlling, etc. She was also apparently sharing with daughter about what she does including parties, boys, and maybe alluding to drugs...the parents were uncomfortable going into to much detail about what they overheard. Long story short. This girl is also friends with OM's children. Back to conversation with W. I ended up saying some things like

I didn't feel like I had a parenting partner
I had lost confidence in her
I felt she was back in high school partying (we're in our 40s)
I didn't recognize who she had become

Our conversation was abruptly stopped when we realized she needed to get kids up for school.

Have a made a big mistake? If so what should I do to recover? Is it OK what I said? How do I let go of the issues with kids?

She didn't like anything I said obviously but I think she gets it and when I asked her to stop for a second and reverse the roles and really think about how she would feel, she fell silent for a while.

Should I call her back or wait to see what she does??