You are right, I do not trust that he will do it if I am not there. That is part of the 'actions' I am looking for. I want to hear the reasons he gives her for ending it. I want to hear him make it CLEAR, not for him to waffle like he has done so many other times. At this point with his track record I cannot just 'take his word for it' that he breaks it off with her.
I am not naive. I do not feel that we are out of the woods. In fact we are probably just now going into the woods. I have no idea if he will actually end it until I hear him do it. I don't know how the retreat will go unless/until we are there and doing it. I have not invited him back into my home, have not said anything to any family including our kids. I am not convinced but I am going to watch and see what he does.
