OK - now S knows that there is potentially another bomb to drop, right? I don't advocate that you discuss this with him but he won't be surprised, I wouldn't have thought.
However, the problem now is knowing what to do with this new finding. I can totally understand that you are panicking and feeling sick ... BREATH - put up a stop sign in your mind and try to get some logical perspective. There may be a perfectly logical reason for this transaction. I would urge you not to jump to conclusions here, although it's naturally your first instinct. You need to find out - not accuse, but you need to query what that money is for.
I went to the bank in the week and queried a transaction on our account and it turned out to be our contents insurance - see what I mean!
Maybe you could call the bank and ask them to put a stop on the transaction as you know nothing of it and it COULD be unauthorised. That wouldn't do you any favours with H but it may smoke him out a bit ... it could also incur his wrath so you have to be prepared.
It's so hard to know what the right thing to do is but what I do know is this: when people ask for advice and they get it, they quickly decide if that's what they want to do. Deep down, I think that we all KNOW what we want to do about these things but we just want another perspective to bench mark against.
If I turn the question on it's head, what do you THINK that you should do??
I'm here - I won't go until you have come to relax a bit more about this ... have a think. Breath >>> put up the stop sign >>>> breath >>>> think >>>>>
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