Have you thought of backing away completely? Yes he may move on but alternatively it will force him to examine what he actually wants rather than having you and OW dangling. Scary though. Remember you don’t have to do it forever just try it as a strategy for a couple of weeks and if it doesn’t work then reestablish contact. Monitor results to see what works.
Concentrate on you and your PMA, GAL stuff and all that. And why not date? Stop obsessing. I’m great at giving out this advice but find it almost impossible to do myself.
