A Little Epiphany - (and a newbie delurking)

[Dia]

Houston, we have achieved cuddling. Full story in the morning.

[Sara]

Then what's the benefit of me staying up late?

[Dia]

Antici-pation.

/rockyhorror

[Kettricken]

Evil. Pure evil.

On the other hand, WHOO HOO!

[girlfromoz]

Not fair, want to know about it now.

[Lost Rabbit]

Me too thought I was just getting to the good bit!

[Deep]

Wow Dia, just popping in, and what a development!

Seems like things are going swimmingly well.

[Dia]

So, were were supposed to watch Labyrinth last night, right? Well, H made supper while I took a shower - I was overly fragrant from cleaning all day. Once clean, I put on a flirty little black skirt and a pink eyelet top.

While we were eating, a hummingbird was going nutso chirping outside. H looked over at me and deadpanned, "He must have seen your teddy." I laughed!

Diana Krall was crooning, I was singing along doing my torch-song rendition of 'Besa Me Mucho' at him from across the LR. He was bemused.

Around 7, kidlet said he wanted to watch a movie and H brought up Labyrinth. Kidlet didn't want to watch it; he wanted to watch a Laurel and Hardy dvd. H turned it over to me - what did Mama want to watch. Well, I wanted Labyrinth and kidlet had been watching Laurel and Hardy all day, so I suggested that kidlet pick a third choice. Kidlet said no movie at all then.

Ever the peacemaker, I suggested that kidlet could watch what he wanted now, and H and I could watch Labyrinth after bedtime. H said no, he only had one movie in him so (I thought) it had to be now. I was disappointed but put my PMA face on.

Turns out what H meant was that he DID want to watch Labyrinth, and after bedtime (meaning alone with me), he just wanted to be free to work on his projects in the meantime. Once we got that figured out (woo hoo!), I entertained kidlet until bedtime and H went to his computer.

In the meantime, a client had emailed H upset about something or other that wasn't working right on a website H had made for him. H was supremely frustrated and scowled heartily as I walked in to let him know it was almost bedtime.

H finally did bedtime with kidlet, but then told me he had to finish fixing the problem for the client before we could watch the movie. I handled it lightly, "Oh, sure. I'll be here when you're ready."

He was back within 15 - 20 mins and he wanted to vent about the client. I listened. I did not try to fix his mood. I validated. "Wow, that *does* sound frustrating." Nod, wave, listen some more. "I can see why you feel that way. I'd be upset, too." He put the movie in and thanked me for being so understanding.

Then we sat down on opposite corners of the couch. A few scenes in, I adjusted posture to put my feet up on the arm of the couch, letting the flirty little skirt slip dangerously high on my thighs. He immediately stretched a leg out alongside me, touching me along the length of my side. (Hmmmm!) So I draped an arm over his leg. We stayed that way for nearly half an hour. The elbow I was leaning on was killing me, so I groped around for a pillow, intending to rest my head on his thigh. But just as I started, he paused the movie to go get a snack. Damn!!

2nd installment to come. (Gotta get kidlet to school)

[Dia]

He brought his snack back to the couch and had to sit upright to eat it, so we both retreated to our couch corners. I kept the pillow, hugging it in front of me as I watched the movie. He set his dish aside and shifted a little closer to me. I gave it a minute or three then stretched a bit, letting the pillow rest on my thighs. (Here, kitty, kitty. Nice pillow for you.)

And

He

Laid

his Head

on the Pillow!

And wrapped an arm around my hips! I let my arm rest lightly over his shoulder. We stayed that way for awhile half an hour maybe til H pushed himself up saying he was too comfortable and was falling asleep. He sat upright and stretched out his legs, giving me a chance to lay my head in his lap. It was right during the dance scene too, with Sarah in the lovely white dress and David Bowie singing As the World Falls Down

Le sigh!

So we snuggled until the end of the movie. I was in utter heaven. We hugged when we got up, long and tender, with fingers trailing down each other's arms to clasp hands as we parted. We separated to get jammies on and I met him in the hallway going to get my pillow which was on his bed. He grabbed me tight for another long, hard hug before he backed into his room and closed the door.

Me, I went to the couch and savored every minute of it.

I saw his eyes, though, and that was one scared little deer, so it wasn't the time to push to sleep in the Master bed with him. That will come, and likely not too far off either.

I am sure there will be a pullback, alas, but I'll deal.

[Dia]

H was a scared li'l bunny this morning, barely making eye contact and dashing off to work with a wide-eyed "See ya. Gotta run!" (no hug)

Of course, maybe it's just the stress and chaos of returning to work and getting out the door late, but it smelled like a pullback to me.

That's ok. Lots of nice stuff in my pick-i-nick basket. Plenty of soft grass, shady trees and a nice checkered blanket to sit on.

Pate', anyone? Try the grapes; they're lovely.