Have you read PM yourself? I think the real question is: "If I'm dealing with a man like your exH, what can I (stress on I) do? Would reading and implementing the PM book myself work?"
The answer here, I think, depends on:
(1) how much of a personal risk you'll take putting your authentic self on the line (2) H's ability to do the same (3) The match between your authentic sexualities.
I really don't think my XH and I were a real sexual match underneath all the crap. But, we were never in piecing. So, don't let my view about my XH determine your view about your own chances.
